My published books and unpublished manuscripts:
FORMERLY CALLED “RETIREMENT”: One man’s odyssey into the world beyond work
My first three years after leaving the world of fulltime, paid work were very revealing in terms of what it’s like to be cast into a boundaryless zone of too much time, too many choices, too few criteria. As it turns out, I had a magnificent “Aha!” experience that crystallized for me what my life was to be all about in its next iteration–but it wasn’t easy getting there. This book may be published as a print-on-demand volume available on line.
Over the course of forty or more years in various leadership positions, I made my share of boneheaded mistakes and, fortunately, learned something from most of them. In Taking Your Lumps I have tried to distill the key lessons learned from these experiences and put them into stories that others can relate to. With any luck, they may preclude—or at least temper—the harsher education that comes from blind trial-and-error. This book amy be published as a print-on-demand volume available on line.
My first book, Father Feelings, was published in 1978 by William Morrow & Co., with a subsequent paperback edition by Pocketbooks. Chapters also appeared in popular magazines including Reader’s Digest.
Father Feelings describes various encounters between me and one or another of our children–encounters that made we wonder just what was going on here. Why did she ask that particular question just now, or why did I react as I did to the way he squanders his allowance, or what are we expecting from each other? In incident after incident, I felt my way toward who we are to each other and what our mutual pilgrimmage is all about. Reviewers were very generous in their comments about Father Feelings and universally described it as “funny”, which caught me completely by surprise because I never intended it as humor (!).
Father Feelings is long out of print, but used copies are readily available (cheap!) from Amazon.com.
SICK AND TIRED OF BEING FAT
My second book, Sick and Tired of Being Fat, chronicles my lifelong struggle with overeating and my hatred of the fat that hangs on my body as a result. Over the years, I have tried every trick known to the human species to master my eating and acquire a sleek body. In the process, I’ve lost and regained more pounds than I care to recall. Sick and Tired of Being Fat is a pretty good insider’s view of what it feels like to be seduced by food, to hate being fat, and to experience the negative judgment of the world because we aren’t slim.
Sick and Tired of Being Fat was jointly published by Harper-Collins and Hazelden Press, and was written under the pseudonym of Eliot Alexander out of respect for the tradition of anonymity in the 12-Step program of which I was a member when I wrote it. Also out of print, it too is available as a used book through Amazon.com.
This is a“lessons learned” book–a collection of stories of specific experiences I have had that taught me something important about the way the world works, and the way people behave. Can you really have too much money? Why is cruelty so ubiquitous? How is it possible that the world of business is so irrational and still prospers for many? Publication of this material has not been determined.